Focus on You, Focus on Now

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"Focus on you, not the future." Bless my mother for her beautiful words of wisdom.

It's no secret that one of my "things" is stressing unnecessarily about literally everything, especially the future. Obviously this doesn't make me special as we all tend to stress about the future from time to time, but some of those times make me unable to eat or sleep or think straight. 

The thing is, I shouldn't stress. Life is great. Life is beautiful. Life will always be okay and if I've made it this far, I will likely just keep on keeping on, but sometimes I think too much about timelines. I look at the people around me and their timelines and then I think about where I should be on mine.

But here’s the thing, timelines are bullshit.

My friend Luke and I like to yell this a lot. We laugh about it, but it's true. We all gotta do what we gotta do on our own time. I'm so happy to see my friends getting married, buying houses, or bragging about their new grills, but that's just not where I'm at right now. And that is FINE! Because I’m happy with where I’m at-- as long as I don’t think about it too much ;) 

My favorite author and best friend (I like to think we could be at least), Nora McInerny quoted her father in her most recent book No Happy Endings, "The problem with people is that they think there's a right time for things. They think the world gives a shit about your timing."

In my young and dumb opinion, this couldn’t be more true. Everything is going to shake out how it shakes out regardless of what I say, so I might as well just welcome it all with open arms whenever it decides to happen. For now, I’ll work on keeping my smile going and enjoying the ride.

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